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Putting yourself out there to find Love again

By Jade Seashell (contributor), author of “A Seductress’ Confession: How to leverage beauty and savor tantalizing pleasure”

Maybe you have left a relationship and now you’re wondering whether you should start dating again.  No matter how you feel, I encourage you to start dating now – here is why:

  • Feel the pain, and do it anyway.  Ending a relationship isn’t the easiest thing in the world, so probably you are in pain – and that’s normal.  In fact, that is ten times better than being numb.  Think about an injured athlete: if an athlete is injured, do they completely stop training?  No.  Actually, once their injury has recovered to some degree, the start to do training again slowly.  Therefore, you should also acknowledge the pain, and start dating again.
  • Your previous relationships are not completely negative.  Personally, I think every previous relationship of mine was a success, because each relationship taught me something very meaningful and those experiences made me who I am today.  Without my past, I probably wouldn’t be here writing this article for you.  Therefore, your previous relationships have become the soil which nurtures this beautiful flower (your life) now!  The learning from your past makes your future relationship much better, so you have a more profound understanding of love from now on.
  • Making an effort VS making an intelligent effort.  Instead of going to random parties (making an effort), you can go to do some activities that you actually enjoy, because your hobbies are your values. It’s important to find someone who shares the same core values with you (making an intelligent effort) – that makes your relationship sustainable in the long run.  If both of you enjoy reading (your value is knowledge), you are very likely to meet each other at a book club.

(Jade Seashell is an Australian author, international seduction strategist and dating expert.  Her email is info@jadeseashell.com)


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